yeah i'm taking over this blog to make my distaste known to the public, but fuck you if you have a problem with it. most likely you come here just as much for the prolonged rants as the mediafire links, right? right.
this morning i was inundated with links to this article denouncing "girlfriend metal" which i bet a lot of you have read already. i started reading it with a positive mindset, as i had feebly hoped it was a women-positive article. don't get me wrong -- i'm no "bra-burning" feminist but when i hear or read something about women in the metal scene, i get interested because i've been waiting to read an article about women who love metal that didn't pander to us or fall into the usual gender-based stereotypical traps.
....i'm still waiting.
the fault i find with kim's article [besides all of the pompous band name dropping] is that it keeps perpetuating the stereotypes by making tired, sweeping generalizations and then closing up by mentioning the usual list of all of the women who are in metal bands. yes, i know that they're there. thank you for pointing something out to us that we've read in every other metal article about women. i implore everyone to take a step way back and look at the whole situation from a different perspective.
my larger point is: who the fuck cares if you're a guy or a girl?
if you like metal, you're a metal fan.
your gender does not and should not have anything to do with it.
one of the sweeping remarks made in ms. kelly's article is that people are of the mass opinion that girls love more accessible, melodic metal. but how come no one talks about the masses of dudes that love that kind of metal and don't really get into anything more heavy? i've met plenty of them. just because a dude is a metal fan doesn't mean that he automatically listens to sewage vocal death metal from croatia. come the fuck on. it's the very definition of double standards.
the gender barrier frustrates me to no end.
being someone who loves metal, i want nothing more than to meet people, anyone really, with similar interests and talk about bands and shit. i wish it were easier to approach people at a show -- but because i'm a girl, if i go up to a dude with a shirt on from a band that i like and start talking to him about it, he'd probably automatically think i'm hitting on him. i'm not. i just want to talk, god dammit.
every time i go to a show with any guy, it's inevitable that other dudes will strike up casual conversations about music with him, based on something as simple as the shirt he's wearing or a pin on his bag or whatever. i can count on like, one finger the amount of times that's happened to me. i wish that i were viewed as a person with similar interests -- a fan of metal first, than a gal -- not the other way around.
yeah i realize this is me fucking wishing for some utopian, politically-correct, gender-neutral lol dream that will most likely never happen, but really, the solution to this issue is not that hard. next time you see anyone wearing a shirt of a band you like, strike up a conversation. say what's up to whoever you're standing next to at a show. stop stereotyping and actually take a second to discover what bands each individual person enjoys.
basically, there's only one rule for life: don't be a fucking asshole.
you may now return to your regularly scheduled programming.
2 comments:
I too am disgusted by these sweeping generalizations
I don't think she's any different from Anthony Fagtano & people of his ilk she'd just like to think she was, both name dropping know nothing amoebas.
& I am being kind here, she is a complete moron.
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